Gosh I'm sorry you have been put in this yucky position...family is well, they can be tough.
Not to pile on, but I agree...I would tell my sister to either shape up or ship out asap. SHe is a GUEST, she is not entitled nor should she expect to rearrange your life, your home or especially your relationships.
I think what you are saying is that you do not believe that these people are ever going to treat your dog with respect and that in fact you believe the situation is going to get worse. See, that's totally unfair to you and especially to your dog. And their awful behavior can cause permanent scars on your beloved pet. That's unacceptable in my book.
I understand that people (especially family) have to come first, however, you are NOT responsible for caring for your sister or her kids. What would she have done if you hadn't offered her a free ride? I dare say she would have figured out a way to leave her husband with or without you.
It's time to explore some other living arrangement possibilities because she clearly doesn't have any respect for your feelings or she would have curbed that whole "I'm not a dog person" attitude (which is just an excuse for her to treat you and your dog badly) and put a little effort into making everyone's lives less stressful. Would you have gone into her home and treated her husband like he was a dangerous savage beast that you wished would leave and never be heard from again? That's exactly what she is doing to you and it's totally unfair to you both.
So sorry you are in such a difficult spot, but as a former burn vicitim of my own family I can tell you that if she can't respect a simple and reasonable request to treat your dog with respect and care and are acting this bad after only 3 weeks....imagine your life and her behavior a year from now . Imagine if you dog becomes so confused and afraid of these kids that she does nip or jump on one of them one day...double !
This kind of behavior, this attitiude that she doesn't have to take your feelings into account when she acts it only escalates, I promise it never gets better...I learned that the hard way. I would ask them to leave before feelings and resentment gets so out of control that you never want to speak to her again...also from experience
sorry this got so long, and double sorry you are going through this.
I hope your words can get through to her and she'll start really hearing your concerns before it goes too far...
Not to pile on, but I agree...I would tell my sister to either shape up or ship out asap. SHe is a GUEST, she is not entitled nor should she expect to rearrange your life, your home or especially your relationships.
I think what you are saying is that you do not believe that these people are ever going to treat your dog with respect and that in fact you believe the situation is going to get worse. See, that's totally unfair to you and especially to your dog. And their awful behavior can cause permanent scars on your beloved pet. That's unacceptable in my book.
I understand that people (especially family) have to come first, however, you are NOT responsible for caring for your sister or her kids. What would she have done if you hadn't offered her a free ride? I dare say she would have figured out a way to leave her husband with or without you.
It's time to explore some other living arrangement possibilities because she clearly doesn't have any respect for your feelings or she would have curbed that whole "I'm not a dog person" attitude (which is just an excuse for her to treat you and your dog badly) and put a little effort into making everyone's lives less stressful. Would you have gone into her home and treated her husband like he was a dangerous savage beast that you wished would leave and never be heard from again? That's exactly what she is doing to you and it's totally unfair to you both.
So sorry you are in such a difficult spot, but as a former burn vicitim of my own family I can tell you that if she can't respect a simple and reasonable request to treat your dog with respect and care and are acting this bad after only 3 weeks....imagine your life and her behavior a year from now . Imagine if you dog becomes so confused and afraid of these kids that she does nip or jump on one of them one day...double !
This kind of behavior, this attitiude that she doesn't have to take your feelings into account when she acts it only escalates, I promise it never gets better...I learned that the hard way. I would ask them to leave before feelings and resentment gets so out of control that you never want to speak to her again...also from experience
sorry this got so long, and double sorry you are going through this.
I hope your words can get through to her and she'll start really hearing your concerns before it goes too far...
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